There has been a lot of talk at the office where I work recently regarding body image. Conversations have varied from “I hate my body” to “well you’re just lucky that you have good genetics and you’re skinny” to “I need to diet and lose so much weight.” Whenever these conversations arise, I find myself feeling sad that women place so much pressure on themselves to look a certain way. As many of you know, I am a Christian, and the Bible says how we are created perfect in various ways:
“You therefore must be perfect”
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made”
“We are His workmanship.”
If you are not a believer in Christ, there are many other sayings by secular individuals as well.
I believe that every morning when we wake up we are given the opportunity to make that day the best day of our life. When we wake up with discontent, telling ourselves things like…my breasts are too small, my hips are too wide, my ass is too fat, my stomach has too many rolls, my stretch marks make me feel ugly, or I hate my wrinkles, we are instantly starting the day off on the wrong foot.
How much better would it be to wake up and know that you are beautiful?
Wouldn’t that feel good?
All it takes is starting to discover the love you have for yourself. We are always told to love others, put others first etc…I think that this is a great way to live, but I also know that if you don’t love yourself first, there is no way in hell you can love someone else.
Dig deep on days when you don’t feel pretty. Find the space in your head that says I am beautiful. I may have flaws, but they make me who I am. I love myself for who I am and I am constantly working every single day to make myself even better.
That is all we can do.
It is so common for people to try to look a certain “cookie cutter” way. The media poisons us into thinking we need to be a size 2 with D cup breasts. But what if that just isn’t how you were made? No amount of dieting, exercise, or self-loathing will make you become a size 2. If you are thick, own it. If you are tall, flaunt it. Short? Flat chested? You can wear all the cute bohemian shirts the big breasted girls can’t wear. Find the silver lining. Find what makes you YOU and be proud of that person.
I believe that this life is ours for the taking. Take care of your body, look in the mirror and see the badass, beautiful woman you are, and never let anyone tell you that you need to diet, starve yourself, or feel miserable.
I went around and collected quotes from some of the most special women in my life. They answered in response to my question “What does loving the skin you’re in mean to you?”
I hope you’ll take the time to read these quotes above and remember they aren’t from the Bible, a celebrity or a historical figure. They are from women just like you and me.
You are perfect just the way you are.